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Hannah Hart Beat

Love, Dating & A Few Other Things

Hannah Hart Beat

Hi Hart Beat. How are you? How was your Thanksgiving? Did you do anything fun? Is anyone reading this? Hello? Are you there? Jkjk, I know there are a few of you out there and you have no idea how much I appreciate you. My book is coming along and I’m so used to writing to a readerless void right now that it’s hard to imagine you, a physical, thinking being, sitting there on the subway, or drinking your coffee, or sneaking a break at work, or lying in bed with your phone hovered over your squinting eyes, reading these words that I’m typing right now. Hi.

What’s new enough with me to warrant a post instead of another thousand words to my manuscript? Other than the fact that I miss writing to you, it’s also because I’ve been thinking of things that I thought maybe others in the internet world could relate to. That sticky wicket that I know you can relate to is love. Dating, relationships, and love. As I write this now I’ve been single for over six months. Back in May, I decided that I would intentionally not date until Thanksgiving and/or Christmas. On Thanksgiving day last week, I oscillated back and forth between which date I had actually said and about if I am ready or even want to date now. I mean, I like dating. I like going out for dinner and flirting. Actually, I love flirting. Which begs the question, why not date?

Why not. If you were sitting here with me you would have just heard an earth-shatteringly deep sigh. The truth Hart Beat? I’m happy single. I like that I don’t have to have an excuse to be selfish. I like that I don’t have to text anyone goodnight. I like that I can wear whatever I want and watch whatever I want on Netflix. I like that when I got a dog I could name him whatever I wanted, even if it was a rediculous name like Mateo. I like not compromising. How long do I want to be single? I guess it depends. It depends on life and the universe and fate and reality. What I do know is that the most important thing to me in the entire universe right now is the G.D. book that begs to be poured out of me every day. That has priority. That’s the thing that keeps me up at night. Not some guy.

Is this all TMI? IDK. Probs. (My bff Jill?) If it’s too much just file it under “this is a blog I’ll never read again” and I’ll see you some other place Hart Beat. If not, see you back here in a couple of weeks.

And p.s., because I like you and I do want you to come back, here are a few other things on my mind lately:

This cover of Capital Cities song Safe and Sound in an acoustic version that makes my heart swell. I know a few of you out there in the internet world get a little aroused when listening to these kinds of covers. You’re welcome.

This 2007 essay by Zadie Smith about writing. Fail Better is just the kind of thing that I’ve needed to read this week.

This post from NYMag. I love that it’s not photoshopped, click the little arrow on the right to see how it was made.

The movie Lady BirdWhich I LOVED SO MUCH. I’m also excited to see a few other movies in the next few weeks (Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, MissouriThe Shape of WaterCall Me By Your NameThe Post). It truly is the most wonderful time of the year.

The Scandinavian Spa in Montreal that my mom and I went to on Thanksgiving day. It’s silent and has three hot and cold areas. The idea is to go from one to the other. Hands down one of the best things I’ve done in a while.

The photo up top posted by Sézane on Instagram.

Hannah Hart Beat - Five Languages of Love

The Five Languages of Love

Hannah Hart Beat - Five Languages of Love

Hola, Hart Beat. How’s your week going? I was in Vermont earlier this week and am back in Massachusettes now. I’m looking forward to getting a few things from my summer bucket list checked off. I think swimming and reading are in order this weekend. Plus, I just finished my book of the week and need to start a new one. 🙄

Meanwhile, in the land of the internet, I’ve been mulling over a conversation I had with two of my best childhood friends earlier this summer. Have you heard of the five languages of love? My friend Alli told us about the theory and we talked about it for a while over some wine.

The theory is based on a book written by Gary Chapman that argues there are five “love languages” that we, as humans, use to communicate love to each other. According to Chapman, each person has one primary and one secondary love language. The five languages are:

  1. Words of affirmation
  2. Quality time
  3. Receiving gifts
  4. Acts of service
  5. Physical touch

Furthermore, Chapman says that people usually look for love in the same “language” that they themselves give love. For example, if I’m a person that shows my love by words of affirmation then I look for love in words of affirmation back to me. It makes sense, right? We look for love in the same ways that we naturally give it.

When I was talking with my girlfriends it was so amazing to hear about the different ways we all crave love. One person’s “I love you” face to face is another person’s act of washing the dishes without having been asked or bringing flowers home. It’s an interesting idea. And, it might help in relationships, even if you’re not cut and dry one of the five. The chances of us finding a partner who expresses love in the same way we do is rare which means that you might have to look hard for someone’s signs of affection. Your partner might be telling you they love you in a different language and maybe with this idea, it could be easier totell.

P.S. Love in (literal) other languages and how to say sweetheart in seven more.

Photo from Lost in Translation.

Our Soppy Love Story

I make what Pedro calls “Prison Pasta" [2:14] pasta, olive oil, salt and parmesan cheese (things we always have) [2:14] slash we go down to the pizzeria downstairs

Hi Hart Beat. I’m back! If you follow me on Instagram then maybe you saw I was on a romantic Costa Rican vacation with my mom last week. Well, like it or not now I’m back and have so much to share with you! Let’s start with this adorable book that has been circulating the internets recently.

Soppy by Philippa Rice is one of the most romantic things I’ve seen in a while. The artist has captured the small nuances of what it’s like to be in a long-term relationship like no one I’ve ever seen. From moments like cooking together to the trials and tribulations of claiming your side of the bed, to falling asleep together on the couch after the 100 Seinfeld episode, I kept thinking “did this woman spy on me and Pedro?” Honestly, so many of these comics could be us. And the best part? They are illustrations off of her relationship with her partner.

This means that as much difference as there is in every relationship, some things stay the same. The intimate parts stay the same. And for that, I am grateful.

P.S. For more illustrations from the book check out this post on Upworthy that has a ton.

Our Soppy Love Story

All photos by Philippa Rice.

Death Sex and Money

The only podcast guide that you need (+ pick number one)

The only podcast guide that you need

Hi Hart Beat. Last week I was lucky enough to be able to attend a conference and media event hosted by WNYC, WBEZ, and NPR called Hear It Upfront. The event brought together a group if about 30 podcast and public radio enthusiasts to meet, talk, and share ideas with some of the leading voices behind public radio and public radio podcasts. Really what this means is I got to chat and have a drink with the likes of Ira Glass, Jad Abumrad, Steven Thompson, Linda Holmes, Anna Sale, Lulu Miller and Elise Spiegel.

I’ve been listening to podcasts for years and have a few that I love so much I could sing about them from the roof of my Brooklyn apartment. Lucky for my neighbors (and you Hart Beat) I have this little old blog where I can detail the podcasts I love and why you should listen to them.

The guide I’ve pulled together is just a small toe dip into the podcast universe and if none here spark your fancy, I promise that there is one out there for you. That’s the beauty of podcasts, there really is one for everyone AND if there’s not, you can make it yourself. Since it’s such a long post already let’s do just one at a time. Look for the next recommendation coming to you on Wednesday!

Number One:

What it is: Death, Sex & Money

Who hosts: WNYC journalist, Anna Sale

Gateway episode: Dan Savage Says Cheating Happens. And That’s OK.

Recommended listening activity: Walking down the streets of New York.

The reason I love this podcast is because Anna brings on guests that not only I wouldn’t normally think of but, she discusses topics that are hard to think about. Some of the advice that I’ve heard here has honestly changed the way that I think about life and how others might be handling it.

This episode where she interviews Dan Savage about cheating was one that I still think about today. I was so stricken by it that after I listened to it on my commute I immediately when into the office last summer and asked everyone what they thought. It’s hard to listen to but this is exactly what makes Death, Sex & Money so good.

Death Sex and Money

 

 

Jenny and Zooey sing about best friends

Hi Hart Beat. How was your weekend? I’m so happy that daylight savings is here and that this weekend we could all pretend that it was spring in Brooklyn. I was so lucky this weekend to have a long awaited three year reunion with the loves of my life that I met studying abroad in Spain three years ago. I’ve seen all of my friends separately since we lived in Madrid together but this weekend was the first time we could all get together in the same city. Have you ever had friend soul mates before, Hart Beat? If you are then you know how special and rare these reunions can be. Hey Laur, Steban and Ray, want to move to Brooklyn?

Anyway, in honor for my love for these very special people, here is a sweet song for your Sunday night. This one comes off of Jenny Lewis’s 2008 solo album Acid Tongue. The song, “Trying my Best to Love You”, features the amazing Zooey Deschanel as background vocals. I hope you like it too, Hart Beat.

But still sometimes I can’t believe you’re real
It’s just that I’ve got diamonds in my eyes for you
Our love is simple
Our love is crystal

“Trying My Best to Love You” by Jenny Lewis

Unavailable men, the story of my life

Hi Hart Beat. The other day on the train I was thinking about dating in the city and how horribley awful it is. My curent theory is that if everyone talked to each other on the subway then no one in this city would be single. Seriously Hart Beat, think about it. How many attractive men do you see riding the train every day? HUNDREDS. Just kidding, but only about the numbre of men on the subway. The market where I used to work represented this amazing artist Pamela Barsky who designs and makes these great bags with hilarious sayings on them. My store space used to be right across from hers and so I would read the bags all day long. Some of them are cute or about New York but my favorite one by far was this one bellow.

I remember looking at this one everyday and wonder how simple and true it was. Sometimes I even daydreamed about having it tattooed on my hands so that I would see it every day all the time. There are so many unavailable men out there in so many different forms (emotionally unavailable, locationally unavailable, status unavailable, the list could go on and on.) The beauty of a relationship is finding someone who is unavailable to all but you. That’s the catch. And what a catch, Hart Beat. Wish me luck out there in the jungle.
For those of you who do not want to tattoo Pamela’s saying onto your skin, you can order the bag here on Miss Barsky’s etsy shop. It’s worth browsing around. 

Ghosts that we knew

It’s been beautiful fall weather in Brooklyn lately so I’ve been taking some nice really long runs. It’s been nice to listen to entire albums all the way through on a run and besides my favorite classics like Tommy and Taylor I’ve been giving the second Mumford & Sons album a serious listen. My favorite song out of the album is this one posted bellow and I thought you might like to hear it, Hart Beat.

But hold me still, bury my heart on the coals
But hold me still, bury my heart next to yours
“Ghosts That We Knew” by Mumford & Sons

Ghosts that we knew

It’s been beautiful fall weather in Brooklyn lately so I’ve been taking some nice really long runs. It’s been nice to listen to entire albums all the way through on a run and besides my favorite classics like Tommy and Taylor I’ve been giving the second Mumford & Sons album a serious listen. My favorite song out of the album is this one posted bellow and I thought you might like to hear it, Hart Beat.

But hold me still, bury my heart on the coals
But hold me still, bury my heart next to yours
“Ghosts That We Knew” by Mumford & Sons

Making it last

I just discovered that The New York Times does a series called “Making It Last” that profiles baby boomer couples who have been together 25 years or more. The articles are amazing and inspiring. The couples all remind me of my parents and I love hearing how even though the times have changed, these couples stay together.
These top two pictures are from this weeks installment
Love this wedding picture

Another amazing couple

My parents (Dad’s in the blue and my Mom’s the one with the amazing hair)
when they were building our house in the 80’s.

A distance love story

Hey Hart Beat. How’s you’re Sunday night going? I hope you had a nice weekend out, wherever you are. Earlier today I found this amazing video and I had to share it with you. It’s a simple love story about distance and I thought it was really sweet. And, a little tidbit for ya, apparently the entire video was filmed on a Nokia cell phone. Technology man, crazy world. What do you think of the movie, Hart Beat?

I love the shots of Paris vs. New York in this video. It made me a little dizzy the first time but I think sometimes thats how it feels to live in a city. I love New York so much but I remember what it was like to be split for a while. Nice job James W. Griffiths, you win. 

Marilyn Monroe and Clark Gable