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Love, Dating & A Few Other Things

Hannah Hart Beat

Hi Hart Beat. How are you? How was your Thanksgiving? Did you do anything fun? Is anyone reading this? Hello? Are you there? Jkjk, I know there are a few of you out there and you have no idea how much I appreciate you. My book is coming along and I’m so used to writing to a readerless void right now that it’s hard to imagine you, a physical, thinking being, sitting there on the subway, or drinking your coffee, or sneaking a break at work, or lying in bed with your phone hovered over your squinting eyes, reading these words that I’m typing right now. Hi.

What’s new enough with me to warrant a post instead of another thousand words to my manuscript? Other than the fact that I miss writing to you, it’s also because I’ve been thinking of things that I thought maybe others in the internet world could relate to. That sticky wicket that I know you can relate to is love. Dating, relationships, and love. As I write this now I’ve been single for over six months. Back in May, I decided that I would intentionally not date until Thanksgiving and/or Christmas. On Thanksgiving day last week, I oscillated back and forth between which date I had actually said and about if I am ready or even want to date now. I mean, I like dating. I like going out for dinner and flirting. Actually, I love flirting. Which begs the question, why not date?

Why not. If you were sitting here with me you would have just heard an earth-shatteringly deep sigh. The truth Hart Beat? I’m happy single. I like that I don’t have to have an excuse to be selfish. I like that I don’t have to text anyone goodnight. I like that I can wear whatever I want and watch whatever I want on Netflix. I like that when I got a dog I could name him whatever I wanted, even if it was a rediculous name like Mateo. I like not compromising. How long do I want to be single? I guess it depends. It depends on life and the universe and fate and reality. What I do know is that the most important thing to me in the entire universe right now is the G.D. book that begs to be poured out of me every day. That has priority. That’s the thing that keeps me up at night. Not some guy.

Is this all TMI? IDK. Probs. (My bff Jill?) If it’s too much just file it under “this is a blog I’ll never read again” and I’ll see you some other place Hart Beat. If not, see you back here in a couple of weeks.

And p.s., because I like you and I do want you to come back, here are a few other things on my mind lately:

This cover of Capital Cities song Safe and Sound in an acoustic version that makes my heart swell. I know a few of you out there in the internet world get a little aroused when listening to these kinds of covers. You’re welcome.

This 2007 essay by Zadie Smith about writing. Fail Better is just the kind of thing that I’ve needed to read this week.

This post from NYMag. I love that it’s not photoshopped, click the little arrow on the right to see how it was made.

The movie Lady BirdWhich I LOVED SO MUCH. I’m also excited to see a few other movies in the next few weeks (Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, MissouriThe Shape of WaterCall Me By Your NameThe Post). It truly is the most wonderful time of the year.

The Scandinavian Spa in Montreal that my mom and I went to on Thanksgiving day. It’s silent and has three hot and cold areas. The idea is to go from one to the other. Hands down one of the best things I’ve done in a while.

The photo up top posted by Sézane on Instagram.

Hannah Hart Beat - Five Languages of Love

The Five Languages of Love

Hannah Hart Beat - Five Languages of Love

Hola, Hart Beat. How’s your week going? I was in Vermont earlier this week and am back in Massachusettes now. I’m looking forward to getting a few things from my summer bucket list checked off. I think swimming and reading are in order this weekend. Plus, I just finished my book of the week and need to start a new one. 🙄

Meanwhile, in the land of the internet, I’ve been mulling over a conversation I had with two of my best childhood friends earlier this summer. Have you heard of the five languages of love? My friend Alli told us about the theory and we talked about it for a while over some wine.

The theory is based on a book written by Gary Chapman that argues there are five “love languages” that we, as humans, use to communicate love to each other. According to Chapman, each person has one primary and one secondary love language. The five languages are:

  1. Words of affirmation
  2. Quality time
  3. Receiving gifts
  4. Acts of service
  5. Physical touch

Furthermore, Chapman says that people usually look for love in the same “language” that they themselves give love. For example, if I’m a person that shows my love by words of affirmation then I look for love in words of affirmation back to me. It makes sense, right? We look for love in the same ways that we naturally give it.

When I was talking with my girlfriends it was so amazing to hear about the different ways we all crave love. One person’s “I love you” face to face is another person’s act of washing the dishes without having been asked or bringing flowers home. It’s an interesting idea. And, it might help in relationships, even if you’re not cut and dry one of the five. The chances of us finding a partner who expresses love in the same way we do is rare which means that you might have to look hard for someone’s signs of affection. Your partner might be telling you they love you in a different language and maybe with this idea, it could be easier totell.

P.S. Love in (literal) other languages and how to say sweetheart in seven more.

Photo from Lost in Translation.

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Three Love Poems for You

Hannah Hart Beat - Poetry

Hi, Hart Beat. Sorry it’s been a few days. The last week in the Berkshires has been a whirlwind, a great whirlwind, with friends, family, outdoor concerts, cookouts, afternoon naps, and swimming at the lake. I’ve also been busy working on my writing project and I’ve found, sadly for both you and me, that I can’t be in the Hart Beat and the other writing mode at the same time. While my other project has grown you have been waiting here! As an apology here are three love poems that I’ve come across in the last month or so that I’ve loved. I hope you love them too, Hart Beat. Summer nights are something magical and maybe you can share one of these with someone you love.

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The Kiss, by Stephen Dunn, 1939

She pressed her lips to mind.
—a typo.

How many years I must have yearned
for someone’s lips against mind.
Pheromones, newly born, were floating
between us. There was hardly any air.

She kissed me again, reaching that place
that sends messages to toes and fingertips,
then all the way to something like home.
Some music was playing on its own.

Nothing like a woman who knows
to kiss the right thing at the right time,
then kisses the things she’s missed.
How had I ever settled for less?

I was thinking this is intelligence,
this is the wisest tonge
since the Oracle got into a Greek’s ear,
speaking sense. It’s the Good,

defining itself. I was out of my mind.
She was in. We married as soon as we could.

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Love at First Sight, by Wislawa Szymborska, 1923 – 2012

They’re both convinced
that a sudden passion joined them.
Such certainty is beautiful,
But uncertainty is more beautiful still.

Since they’d never met before, they’re sure
that there’d been nothing between them.
But what’s the word from the streets, staircases, hallways—
perhaps they’ve passed by each other a million times?

I want to ask them
if they don’t remember—
a moment far to face
in some revolving door?
perhaps a “sorry” muttered in a crowd?
a curt “wrong number” caught in the receiver?—
but I know the answer.
No, they don’t remember.

They’d be amazed to hear
that Chance has been toying with them
now for years.

Not quite ready yet
to become their Destiny,
it pushed them close, drove them apart,
it barred their path,
stifling a laugh,
and then leaped aside.

There were signs and signals,
even if they couldn’t read them yet.
Perhaps three years ago
or just last Tuesday
a certain left fluttered
from one shoulder to another?
Something was dropped and then picked up.
Who knows, maybe the ball that vanished
into childhood’s thicket?

There were doorknobs and doorbells
where one touch and covered another
beforehand.
Suitcases checked and standing side by side.
One night, perhaps, the same dream,
grown hazy by morning.

Every beginning
is only a sequel, after all,
and the book of events
is always halfway through.

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Galaxy Love, by Gerald Stern, 1925

There’s too little time left to measure
the space between us for that was
long ago—that time—so just lie
under the dark blue quilt and put
the fat pillows with the blue slips
on the great windowsill so we can
look over them and down there
while I turn the light off with the right
hand and gather you in close with the wrong.

   

LA LA LAND

L.A. L.A.

La La Land

Oh, Hart Beat. It’s cold here. It’s so cold here. It’s so so so cold and miserable here in New York that even The New York Times is writing about how today was one of the worst Monday’s. But, instead of complaining about how frozen my toes are and how slow the subway was this morning, let’s dream about L.A. instead, okay?

Because, have you seen La La Land!?! If there ever was a movie made for Hart Beat this would be it. The entire time I was watching it I felt like every scene was specially made for me. The music, the costumes, the light, the people… I can’t even. It was magical. Just watch this clip from the movie here. Ryan Gossling and Emma Stone sing the main theme from the movie.

Through the whole movie, I kept forgetting where I was and what time period the movie was supposed to be in. They would walk down the street and then Emma Stone would get in a Prius and I’d be all Ohhhhhh, right right right. This is happening now, not in the 1920’s. And the music! Lucky for you and me both the soundtrack version and the official movie score are both on Spotify so we can all pretend we live in the magical world of La La Land.

Have you seen the movie? If you haven’t run/walk/dance/tap dance there asap.

P.S. I forgive the Times because they published an article about all the classic dance moves that La La Land has in it. Definitely worth a read!

2017, Getting Brighter Every Day

Hart Beat! It’s 2017! I have some resolutions that I want to share but what I really just want to put out into the internet tonight is this amazing video. A few things before you watch; One, if you don’t know this is a video starring street style icon and 87-year-old Grandmother slash Instagram star Baddie Winkle. Two, yes this is an advertisement for Smirnoff. Three, it came out a few months ago but whatever. And four, of course. How did you know? This is who I want to be in sixty years.

What do I see when I look in the mirror? A diamond. 87 karat. Getting brighter every day. We all should. We were born to shake, dip and roll. So when people say to me, granny sit down you’ll break something. I just smile and say, “Honey, the only thing I’m about to break is your man’s heart.”

BADDIE YES. And this song (because I know you’re obsessing like I am) is Breakout by Arnie Love & The Lovettes. This song is officially the best way to ring in 2017.

My Best Friend’s Wedding & Movie Soundtracks

My Best Friends Wedding

You know that feeling (^ that feeling) when you listen to music you haven’t heard in a while? I’ve been pulling together a playlist for you this month, Hart Beat but to be honest I just keep coming back to the same album. And, to be even more honest, I don’t think it’s one that you really want to listen to.

The movie My Best Friend’s Wedding came out in 1997 when I was the ripe old age of seven. I don’t really remember the first time I saw the movie but because my house was a big fan of Julie Roberts I’m pretty sure I saw it as soon as it came out on tape. It was always my favorite movie to watch with my mom. How can it not be!? Julia is fabulous, the story is gut wrenching, and Dermot Mulroney is my biggest celebrity crush. Still.

So in lieu of a September playlist tonight, I think you should all go back and listen to the soundtrack of your favorite movie growing up. Luckily for me the My Best Friend’s Wedding soundtrack is gold. But to be honest, even if the album is pretty crappy it’s still going to make you feel great and remember watching the movie. I know I can’t help but see Julia Roberts drive a delivery truck in a crop top that can only be described as a non-shirt-shirt after a heart broken Mulroney every time I listen to the song What the World Needs Right Now Is Love. Here are a few clips with music of my favorite movie for your Tuesday night,

The rehearsal dinner part:

The karaoke part:

The part where Mulroney sings and your heart melts:

And the trailer so you can really feel like you watched the entire movie tonight.

You’re welcome, Hart Beat.

The King

My King, Mon roi

The King trailer

I’m not sure what it is but there’s something about summer that makes me think about French films. It might be because growing up in the Berkshires the local movie theater always carried the newest French movie. Over the years I’ve written about other movies that I loved (check out the list below for other recommendations!) but tonight I want to share a new trailer for My King (or Mon Roi en français) that premiers tomorrow in NYC. I haven’t seen the movie (yet!) but this trailer got me so good. According to a Brooklyn Magazine article the movie is tragic (of course it’s French) and romantic (again, duh) which is great because those are two of my favorite things.

Right!?!? I want to see it so badly and I don’t even really know what it’s about other than a tragic love story. The movie comes out tomorrow at Lincoln Center in the city.. Can’t wait for it to come closer to mr in Brooklyn.

Other French movies I’ve loved over the years: Blue is the Warmest Color, Tell No One, The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, Elles, and one other about a French vineyard and an escaped convict that I can’t for the life of me remember but if you know what I’m talking about please put it in the comments -___-

An August Playlist for you

Pink Ladies

Hi Hart Beat. How’s your August going so far? I feel like mine’s off to a good start. we’ve already had a full moon, it’s been as hot as I want it to be in the city, and I’ve already had so many great summer nights. Fingers crossed things keep up. One thing I’ve been working on this week is pulling together an ENTIRE August playlist just for you readers. I think I’m going to start doing this monthly (please hold me to it) and I’m pretty proud of this first one. It has a mix of music, some old and some new, but mostly the entire thing plays like you could be playing it in your car driving to the beach or having a glass of rosé with your crush out on the fire escape. Or, dare I say, even if you’re out singing along to Grease (as one is want to do). Anyway, subscribe on Spotify or listen to it here. Either way you need Spotify and if you don’t have it I can’t think of a better reason to sign up.

How do you know when you’re in love?

Hannah Hart Beat

How do you know when you’re in love? The other day on Facebook I saw that The Atlantic posted a video that they made in Washington Square Park in Manhattan asking people that very question. The responses are all so true and I love all the different people that are asked. It’s so New York and it has me loving this city even more that I usually do.

My favorite response was “I know when I’m in love when the world stops.” Amen, sister friend. It’s just the best feeling in the whole world.

P.S. The video reminded me of this one made by The Cut last year if you’re in the mood for move looooove videos.

Photo of a couple in Paris by Dust Jacket.

A Few Things, Tuesday Afternoon Editon

Hi Hart Beat. It’s Tuesday afternoon and I am STRUGGLING. STRUGG-U-LING. As some solace, because you too are probably feeling the nap need coming to you, here are a few images that I’ve been loving and finding inspiration in lately. WE CAN DO THIS.

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This ^^ building La Muralla Roja by the architect Ricardo Bofill in Calpe, Spain.

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These ^^ Spring lookers from the Portland Apothecary’s newsletter.

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This ^^ Grand Acrobate c. 1952 by Henri Matisse that creeped (in a great way) into my Instagram feed.

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These ^^ photos by Alice Gao from the Everlane Open Office events last week.