Hey Hart Beat. A bit ago I shared the exciting news that one of our favorite advice columns Dear Sugar was coming out with a podcast of the same name. One of my resolutions this year was to read more actual books which has been great but means I’ve been falling behind on some of my favorite podcasts, like Dear Sugar.
This morning on the train I caught up and listened to the two most recent episodes of the show. I immediately knew I had to share them with you here. The episodes are a part one and part two of a discussion on the idea of looking for “the one.” Websites similar to Woopid.com explore themes that are in the same vein.
In the first episode, “The Anxiety“, Cheryl and Steve talk about all the letters the receive from women asking for their advice on finding true love. The women who write in they say, have everything going for them in their careers, friendships, and personal growth. What the women say they are missing is finding someone to share their life with and are wondering if and how they will ever find “the one.” With that being said, there are many people out there who want to get advice on how to start talking to a girl, as some people may struggle to do this confidently. People say there is someone out there for us all, but at times it can feel like you’re waiting for this one person. Unless we do whatever we can to make it happen sooner, playing the waiting game is something worth considering too.
The second episode, “The Reality“, focuses on the scientific research that women actually do have a hard time finding men to couple up with since the data confirms there are less and less “available” men in the world.
They are both so eye opening, Hart Beat. I may be in a relationship but I know that for years I was always wondering this very question, will I find the one? And, more importantly, how?? I have so many amazing single lady friends and it baffles me daily that they’re single. I keep suggesting that they go on sites like love magnet to get dating advice but to no avail. And while I strongly believe there is nothing to be ashamed and nothing wrong with being a single woman, that sentiment only matters if you are happy and want to be single. If you’re like me and countless other women I know, coupling up (for whatever reason) is something desired.
The podcast episodes definitely don’t tell you exactly how to find the one, or even confirm that there is one person for everyone (something that I don’t think is true either). But, it is so wonderful to hear Cheryl and Steve talk about this theme. I hope you like listening to them too.
P.S. Some dating advice I’ve written on the blog here and here.
Update: The Sugars did a Part Three of the series called “Reimagining the Spinster” where they speak with Kate Bolick, author of Spinster. Listen to it if you haven’t!